Men have logical, problem solving minds. When a man enters a conference room or restaurant for the first time, he looks around and sees things that need fixing, pictures that need straightening, and better ways of laying out the room. His brain is a problem solving machine that never takes a holiday. Even if he was on his deathbed in a hospital, he'd be thinking of better way to arrange the ward to take advantage of the natural light and country views.
When a women talks about her problems, a man continually interrupts her and offer solutions.He can't help himself because his brain is programmed to do this. He thinks she will feel much better when she has a solution.She only wants to talk and ignores his solutions.This makes him feel incompetent and a failure.Women don't want solutions, they just want to talk about things and have someone listen.
Talking about her problem is how a woman gets relief from stress.
But she wants to be heard, not fixed.
